Punk-Ass Rainbow

Apparently this is the #1 song on the day I was born… &if you read my last post… holy shit.

“Everything I Do (I Do It For You)” - Bryan Adams

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGoWtY_h4xo

jayramleo asked: It is not that big of a deal unless it becomes a routine, but I read your reasons and I really don't how such a word can cause so much disgust on you, but that's my opinion. But if he knows that you don't like it, he won't do it unless to get your attention. I will let it slide this time, however if it happens again you should remind him without being piss or anything that you don't like it and to find something else to call you if he finds the need to use a term of endearment.

Yeah I kinda messed up & even called him back after he said he wont’ do it again. Something ticks with me when someone ALREADY said they won’t do it again, and i’ve just been feeling like he’s been testing my patience a little too much lately. So covered that with him to just ease up on it a bit and it’s OKAY to tease me once in a while. — Thanks again though man. I’m trying to learn to just let things down easy or let them just go. I’m gonna send him things I DO like about him that way he doesn’t feel attacked because we’ve been conflicting a bit lately.

llamasmaidofhonour asked: I am EXACTLY the same about being called babe, I bloody hate it! Thankyou! xD

Fwew, so I’m not entirely crazy. Good to know. xD

i-am-the-arsonist replied to your post:  
i have to say its really not that big of a deal

livelifebebrave replied to your post: 
 If he’s just joking around then babe was just a joke. I’d defintely say let it slide. Unless it continuously becomes routine!

I’ve let it go when he’s ACCIDENTLY called me babe. I’m just a bit offended this time because he took what I don’t like & said he’d STOP doing & PURPOSELY went against what he said for a joke at my expense.

Am I still out of line? I just. &I don’t like the idea of constantly being pushed until I get to this point where it just blows up. It may not happen again, but if I make it seem like it’s OKAY, I’m afraid that gives him an opening to keep doing it then just go back & defend himself with “But you didn’t say anything about it before…”

seventy-k-deactivated20111224 asked: Why don't you like being called babe?

There’s A LOT of reasons.

1. It gets used by a lot of people. Generic. It’s nothing ‘special’

2. Babe is short for baby, which is an infant. I personally think it’s disgusting to call someone something helpless. I don’t need to be coo’d like one either.

3. MOST of the time I hear it, it’s by creepy guys that are just trying to hit on chicks. “Heeeey babe.”

So I woke up with a text message that read “Goooooooooooodmorning BABE. I gotta PEE. <3”

 Him telling me when he has to pee has been a recent inside joke. But the part that pissed me off was being called BABE. We already had it established I DO NOT like being called babe/baby. I’ve told him my reasons, he said he’d stop. He KNOWS better.

When I called him because this kinda upset me (to wake up too, especially), he was just like “You should of shrugged it off. It was a joke.” (Guys tend to do this, huh?)

Is it just me, or are jokes where you deliberately pick on someone with something they seriously just DON’T like & you said you’d NOT do it just SHOULDN’T be funny to someone if you love them? &Was I out of line for saying it bothered me, or should of I let it go? 

Please halp tumblr. D:

jayramleo asked: Lol feelings make life complex lol, but you can tell him how you feel without comparing to your ex. Relationships are all about communication and talking does solve problems. I believe clearing things out is better than having the pink elephant in the room, and the more clear that you are, the better.

I think I kinda already tapped into feeling like he’s done things less & have told him. I don’t think it’d be fair if he feels like a failure or something overtime without at least explaining to him somehow that it isn’t his fault that I feel that way when he does that. If that makes any sense? I think I’ll tell him about it tonight, it’d probably make me feel better. x-x;

jpocky-penguins-spinkles-deacti asked: 2 1/2- 3 month is generally the usual time frame where the lovey dovey stage ends and couples sink or they float. Hey that's pretty good considering you can't drive. As long as your patient and try not to think negatively i hope for the best. Long distance relationships take twice the work but as long as both parties want it to work i see no problem :)

I’ll just hope so. :) <3

jpocky-penguins-spinkles-deacti asked: I agree with the person who answered this before me. In a relationship there are three stages Passion ( the honeymoon stage), Romance and Passion+Romance ( where your comfortable enough with each other). How long have you guys been going out and how often did he drive down? I'm pretty amazed at the fact he did that so often since it's a 30 minute drive. Think of it as a compromise since he can't drive down as often so he just wants you to stick your head out and try to find your way out to him. If he really stopped loving you don't you think he wouldn't even bother telling you to come down? He'd probably brush it off and make excuses for why he can't drive down or not even try to get you to come to him. You don't have to see each other every week to be in love. Love is stronger than that and seeing you live not too far but considerably further than a normal couple be strong and remember this your going to define your relationship by your own terms and not some bs society has crafted.

P.s. I'm glad the whole meeting his friend went well! See things work out :)

He doesn’t really tell me to “come down”, just said I should start finding other means. But, yeah. 2.5 months we’ve been together, which is not terribly long, I know. ((He asked me out on Valentine’s day. :3)) I probably should consider that at least he’s willing to see me in general… &Defining your own relationships is something that should probably be told to everyone. -nodnod- Thank you muchies. :) <3

Edit - Oh! As for how often we see eachother… &Every Friday is “Steak Night”, where me, him, and our friends AJ, Sami, &Sometimes Ken hang out. Then we typically get the next day with just us. Last weekend was different, and this weekend have to leave Saturday. — He used to want to hang out on tuesdays too, but I don’t think we’re doing that anymore. Over-all: Every week at least once.